
Toto, I have a feeling we’re not in sandpits anymore. While this blog has been drifting further and further away from its toddler roots, there’s nothing that quite highlights the passage of time like taking the toddler on the university open day circuit. Tho, turns out there was a sandpit along the way.
Yes, Reuben is now in Year 12 and preparing to submit his UCAS form. So we’ve been to Bath, Cambridge, Cardiff and Reading in the last few weeks, looking for somewhere he might call home for three years. I’m trying not to cry about it too often.
But for those of you who are yet to go on the same treks, here are some handy pointers. Whether you’re looking around in Autumn 2026, Summer 2027 or Summer 2057, these might come in useful. We make mistakes so that you don’t have to.
- Make sure the young person does the choosing and the booking
Self-explanatory really but this is a first step into adulthood. If your young person is planning on going to university, they need to at least be able to fill in an online booking form. I helped Roo narrow down his choices but he did all the admin of finding and booking the open days.
- Plan the subject talks in advance
You can’t necessarily rely on being handed a brochure as soon as you step off the train, with everything you need to know about the open day. While some universities seemed to fall over themselves to make sure you had everything you needed, others were more….standoffish. So looking up the times and locations of the subject talks online can really help you put a plan together. And when I say “you”, I mean your young person again. Obvs.
- Accept that you won’t be able to do everything
We seemed to be on the move pretty constantly and still never saw more than one subject and maybe one accommodation at each place. There are general talks all day on things like student finance and the UCAS process but campuses are huge and you need to factor in time for food, coffee and wandering around to see what the general vibe is. We were looking at two slightly different subject options and at one university – who shall not be named but I might have studied there – the talks for these similar subjects were at the same time but at different campuses. Another had the subject talk a 20 minute walk from the department, with a tour finishing 20 minutes before the talk started. It’s sometimes to fit it all in but I would recommend going to the subject department as a priority and checking out one of the student life talks if possible.
- Make time for the Student Union information fair

There are usually information stands about the clubs and societies, which can be very useful for your young person if they’re starting to imagine what their life there might be like. Roo was pleased to meet the local DnDers at one stand and I was charmed to chat with the Hedgehog Society. The social aspect of university is so important and these are the bits which can help it feel less scary.
- Take advantage of Student Union pricing
Lunch for two for £7? Why, thank you! It’s not going to be the best food you’ve ever had but it tastes like nostalgia. And no, the menu has not really changed in the last 25 years…cheesy chips FTW.
- Make sure you look around the town or city as well

We had a lovely time seeing the sights of the places we visited, from the Mathematical Bridge in Cambridge to the site of Javert’s death in Bath and Dr Who locations to Cardiff. Again, finding familiar eateries and quirky games cafes might help your young person imagine what their life there might be like. Most open days finish around 4:30 so I booked trains back for 7ish, to give us time to have dinner and a look around the area.
- Expect cancellations and delays
I don’t think we went a single trip without one of our trains being cancelled or delayed. In some cases – Reading – it required a slight timing shift. In others – Bath – it meant hiding from irate rugby fans in a cinema while booking beds in the only affordable place that was available. It was a youth hostel with terrible reviews so luckily we didn’t end up staying there as the trains started running again around 11pm…but it was a close run thing.
- Consider staying somewhere close by the night before the open day
Most of these trips we did as day trips because they weren’t too far away but Cardiff felt like it justified an overnighter. I had to back in London for the Sunday so it made much more sense to stay somewhere the night before and be able to stroll into the city centre for brunch with the Welsh branch of the family before going to the open day. Much more chill than trying to cross the country before 9am.
- Be prepared to walk

The most hardgoing open day was probably Cambridge because it was 36C and the colleges Roo wanted to visit are quite far apart from each other. So we relied on the local buses, which were sporadic and on diversion but honestly, we probably should have just walked it all. I so would have but did I mention it was 36C? Cardiff was a much more pleasant 26C so we were able to walk everywhere, even if following Google Maps did get us slightly lost and wandering through my brother’s old halls of residence.
- Interact with the departments and students as much as possible

There is no better primary resource than the students who are currently doing the course. So remind your young person to ask questions, look at displays and take part in everything they can. In the civil engineering department in Bath, we found a tray of sand with an infra red camera to simulate land movements….and for a moment it was like we were back in the toddler days. Good times <3













































































